Playing a game over text is one of the best ways to find out all the little things you can’t come straight out and ask. Texting games also take the pressure out of not knowing what to text.
At the beginning of our relationship, Paul and I mainly communicated by playing texting games that really helped us to get to know each other better. These types of games are great for breaking the ice, especially very early on as a new couple. Playing texting games with your boyfriend or girlfriend is also a great way to keep a conversation going and takes away the “should I text him/her ?” dilemma.
Texting games are also a great way for couples to stay in contact when one or both partners have a busy schedule and can’t just pick up the phone to call.
In the beginning for us, it was a case of being too nervous to pick up the phone and press that dial button. Insecurity plays a huge part in long-distance relationships and texting in general, we were both new to this kind of dating so there was the whole, will he/she like the sound of my voice thing going on.
Very early on we started playing games over text messages as a way to get to know one another better, our likes and dislikes and so on. Many of the games we played were unplanned and came about through normal conversations, for example, a chat about tv shows led to actresses and as a joke, I asked him this question…
Mila or Demi?
He answered (Mila fyi) and countered with, love or lust? and on it went.
I think most people are familiar with the “this or that” game and it’s a great game to play over text as well as a way to start off interesting conversations while also gaining a valuable insight into your partners likes and dislikes.
We played many other text games over the coming months, we happen to be in the same time zone thankfully, but different countries and it wasn’t uncommon to get a random “this or that” when he was at work and conversation was limited due to our schedules.
After a little googling on my part and edging on his, as well as a fair bit of WhatsApp scrolling we have come up with this list of texting games you can try out with your long-distance other half.
List of Texting Games for Long-Distance Couples
This or That?
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This or that is a simple but fun texting game that can really help you get to know one another in the early days. It can be played over SMS or on your favorite instant messaging app on your phone. We used Whatsapp mostly but you can play text games on pretty much any messaging service.
All that is required to play this game is a little imagination, thinking of questions can be tricky on the spot but it’s a lot of fun and can be quite revealing!
If you are stuck for ideas, you can try these this or that texts to start with and pretty soon you will get comfortable texting a random this or that throughout the day
List of This or That Texting Game Examples
- Pepsi or Coke
- Blond or Brunette
- Sun or Rain
- Actress or Actor (eg like the Mila or Demi question, try Angelina or Jen/ Brad or George)
- Orange or Black
- Sweet or Sour
- Fortnite or Pubg
- Ps4 or Xbox
- Flowers or Chocolates
- Winter or Summer
- Night in or Night out
- Netflix or Hulu
- Dunkin’ Donuts or Starbucks
- Android or Apple
- Marvel or DC
and so on
Would you rather?
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Would you rather is a really popular texting game that most people are already familiar with. It’s similar to this or that in that you take turns asking each other questions but each question should give a choice between two options.
The best questions for this game will be the ones where you give a choice of either two very desirable options or two very undesirable choices so your partner is stuck between a rock and a hard place when answering. Here are a few would you rather examples you can text your bf or gf.
Examples of Would you Rather…
- Win the lottery but give it all to charity or win the lottery by mistake and have to give it all back.
- Earn lots of money in a job you hate or earn little in a job you love.
- Have loved and lost or never been in love.
- Be rich and miserable or happy and poor.
- Live in a world without music or live in a world without tv
20 Questions Texting Games
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This game is probably one you have played in the past and it works just as well as a text game as it does over the phone or in person.
One player thinks of an object or person and the other player has to guess what it is in 20 questions or less. The questions must only be answerable with yes or no. For example, you think of an object and the other person has to ask you questions to narrow it down until they can guess what it is. They can only ask 20 questions and you can only answer yes or no.
What if Texting Game
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Another simple game that can reveal a lot about the players is the “what if ” game. All you need to do is ask a what-if question, for example.. what if you won the lottery? Or what if you were stranded on a desert island? What would you do?
This is a really fun and revealing game you can play over text that will help you get to know one another. You can ask the questions you really want to know and get a real insight into their personality.
Guess the Song or Movie
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An easy game for music or movie lovers, simply text a line of lyrics from a song or a quote from a movie and let your partner guess the title. This game is also great for slyly hinting at how you might feel early on by texting romantic song lyrics or a relevant movie quote.
Song lyrics are also fun because you can begin to find songs you both love which you can eventually add to an “our song list” as Paul and I did
Once Upon a Time Texting Game
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Once upon a time is a story game you can play over text where each of you adds a line to the story. One player begins with the line, once upon a time and the other adds the next line. This game can go on indefinitely or until you are both laughing so much you have to stop
This is a really fun game to play by text. You can’t see how the other person reacts and it tends to lead to some very unexpected and funny stories that you will both laugh about for days afterward giving you more to talk about.
The Name Game
The name game is another simple one that is ideal for playing over text. One person chooses a topic, for example, clothes and each person has to name an item of clothing, the challenge is to name something that begins with the last letter of the word your partner chose and so on.
This game is simple to play but challenging too, thinking of a response quickly isn’t always easy especially if your girlfriend or boyfriend is choosing tricky words. You can try and make it as difficult as possible or keep it simple if you just want to keep the conversation going at a fast pace.
Texting Truth or Dare
Truth or dare is a game that often requires more than texting, for instance, to add a fun element the dares may require the person dared to take a photo as proof of completing the dare. Truths can be answered by text.
If you are going to play truth or dare via text messages you might want to wait until you are both comfortable texting in general. It can sometimes lead to disagreements or awkwardness if you don’t know each other very well. On the other hand, if you do know each other well then you can have a lot of fun together.
Kiss, Marry or Kill/Snog, Marry or Avoid
This game is most often played with celebrity names. One of you names a celebrity and the other person has to reply with one of the three choices, kiss, marry or kill or alternatively snog, marry or avoid.
This game is known by both names and is a great way to get to know your partner’s likes and dislikes. If you are secretly wondering if your texting partner is into brunettes or likes a tall woman/man, this is the way to find out and vice versa, pay close attention to the names your partner chooses at the start as those are likely the ones that came to his or her mind first.
Never Have I Ever Texting Game
Never have I ever is another game that can be very revealing and is probably best played when you know each other a little better or else it could lead to some awkwardly long reply times!
Play is simple, one of you states something you have never done and if the other player has an opposing answer they lose a point.
For example, if you text, Never have I ever gone to school/work wearing pajamas. If the other person has never done that either, they would agree, however, if they disagree, it means they have and they lose a point,
So there you have it, some fun texting games that you and your long-distance partner can play over SMS. You can put your own spin on the games or make them more personal to you both and have fun getting to know each other better.
Have you ever played any texting games to get to know someone?
If you have we would love to hear about it, if you have any other texting games you like to play please let us know in the comments below!